The Let Them Theory

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 The Let Them Theory, by Mel Robbins

This was my book club book!  I think we all agree that while the book could easily be half the length, the thesis is an important one that is particularly useful to people like us -- women socialized to make everyone else happy (whether they like it or not).  Also, you can really tell that Mel Robbins is a motivational speaker with a podcast.  Which I might listen to.

All it boils down to is -- let people do what they're going to do, and don't worry about it so much.  Then decide what it is that you need to do, and do that.

So if (as in her example) your teen kid wants to go for tacos in a tuxedo in the rain without a coat, just let him do that without fussing.  If people are judgemental, that's okay.  The only person you can control is yourself, so what are you going to do with yourself?

Useful interludes include: What if I'm feeling envious of everybody else?  What if my life is a disaster?  What if some of my friendships are fading and I'm upset?  And, people don't change until they want to, so stop trying to make them do what you want.

I found it a very worthwhile read, even though it often got a bit repetitive and sometimes sounded like an ad.  That's life when you read a motivational speaker.  It was a message I needed to hear.

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  1. AnonymousApril 7, 2025 at 6:20 PM

    That’s a great concept to explore.

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